You’re used to being treated like a Queen. You’re accustomed to getting presents and gifts from your man. But your man isn’t buying you gifts anymore. So what can you do? Using the simple, proven methods outlined below, your man will begin laying gifts at the altar of YOU.
Here is the ultimate guide on how to get a man to buy you things.
1. Ask for things
Sometimes you just need to ask for what you want.
If it’s important to you that he gets you gifts, then tell him. Be confident about it. Confidence is beautiful. The higher value you place on yourself, the more a man will want to buy you things.
If you’re worried about how to ask him, say something like this:
“Babe, my love language is receiving gifts. This is how I know that you love and appreciate me–by buying me things and paying for stuff.”Be bold!
Women are attracted to men who waste their money. This is why men buy you flowers. Flowers die after a few days. By throwing money away on something he knows will die after a few days, he’s proving to you that he makes enough money to be wasteful.
2. Leave obvious hints & clues
Men are stupid.
We rarely pick up on signs, red flags, or clues that women make obvious. Sometimes you need to do the work for us.
If your boyfriend isn’t picking up on the signals that you want him to buy things for you, you need to leave obvious hints.
How to leave hints:
Text him a picture of those leggings you have your eye on that everyone is talking about. Don’t ask him to buy it. Just text him the link and tell him how cool it is.
Next time you guys are cuddling on the couch while watching a movie, casually bring up how cool it would be if you had those new leggings. You can phrase it like this:
“Oh my god, babe, I bet those leggings would make my ass look incredible. You’d be so turned on you’d want you to rip them off me and take me from behind…“Make it obvious!
He will buy those leggings for you, no question.
3. Be the total package
The first thing that men are attracted to is looks. If you look great on the outside, it’s because you feel great on the inside. Being happy with yourself is an insanely attractive quality that men look for in women.
How to be the total package:
- Dress stylishly (not necessarily expensive)
- Do your hair & makeup
- Be kind to others
- Take care of your body
- Be sexual
If you’re all of these things (or most of them), you’ll be showing men (and the world) that you place a high value on yourself. If you do put a high value on yourself, then men will too.
And he’ll show you how high value you are by laying gifts at the altar of YOU.
4. Sleep with him more
Fact: Sex is a currency.
If he makes sure that you orgasm during sex, you’re more apt to be in a better mood overall. Likewise, if you reciprocate with a quickie in the grocery store parking lot, he’ll be more prone to show his appreciation by buying you things.
Sex feels great and makes US feel great. When you’re in a good mood, you’re more willing to show appreciation to those around you.
If your man is happy, chances are he’ll be more generous with you. If he’s constantly sexually satisfied, he’ll show you how much he loves and appreciates you by buying you presents.
5. Show your interest in an item
Next time you guys are out shopping, drop not-so-subtle hints about how much you like that item on the rack.
“Oh my god, those leggings are so cute. I absolutely love them.”
And then walk away. 9 times out of 10, he’ll offer to buy them for you. If he doesn’t, he either can’t afford it, or he’s not picking up on your signals. If this is the case, then be sure to read the next item in the list.
If he can’t afford it, you should already know that (and be okay with it since you’ve decided to date him regardless of his income). But if you know he can afford it, tell him how much you love that item and then walk away.
He will buy it for you.
6. Withhold intimacy from him
This method will only work if you’re in a long-term relationship. If he’s stopped spending money on you, stop sleeping with him. He’ll get so sexually frustrated that he’ll outright ask you why you’re withholding intimacy. Tell him the truth.
And once he buys you something, then “reward” him with the best sex he’s ever had.
You need to train your man to do what you want by rewarding him when he does something good.
- He takes you on an expensive date: Do something “quick” in the car outside the restaurant.
- He buys you those Gucci sneakers: Give him a night he’ll never forget.
The point is, he’ll learn. He’ll begin to associate buying you gifts with hooking up with you.
7. Make yourself a trophy
If you make yourself a trophy he’ll put you on a pedestal and will shower you with gifts.
You’ve heard the term “trophy wife.” A trophy wife is a woman who is the complete package. Being the full package means having the confidence, looks, & personality that makes you stand out.
How do you become a high-status woman? It’s actually easier than you think.
How to become a high-status woman:
- Always look your best
- Have high self-confidence
- Treat people with respect
- Have a sense of humor
- Always be flirting
If you begin working on these 5 characteristics, you’ll be well on your way to attracting the type of man who can afford to buy you whatever you want.
8. Be independent
Needy and clingy women are extremely unattractive. While it’s true that a man’s instinct is to be a provider, you should be able to take care of yourself.
Being independent shows that you don’t need him. If you don’t need him, it will make him WANT you. And it’ll make him work for you.
You’ve heard the phrase “playing hard to get.” Playing hard to get means that he has to put in work to get you. He has to use all the tools in his toolbox to get you to sleep with him. And guess what one of those tools is?
You guessed it, spending money on you.
How to show you’re independent:
- Don’t text him back right away
- Leave him on “read”
- Drop hints that you’re seeing other guys
- Don’t have sex with him right away
- Pay for dates
- If you invite him over, make sure your apartment is spotless
These are just some of the ways you can show your independence. Remember, when he sees that you don’t need him, he will work 1000% harder to prove that you DO need him. And one of the ways he’ll show you is by buying you expensive presents.
9. Whine about it
Whining about him not buying you things can work magic.
Men don’t like to be whined to. And if you complain enough, he’ll get so annoyed that he’ll buy you what you want just to get you to stop. It’s a straightforward way to get a man to buy you that item you really want.
This method may work in the short term, but in the long term, you’re going to have a hard time keeping a guy around if you’re constantly whining.
10. Let him be a man
There is a secret motivation that men have: men want to be your hero. This is such a powerful instinct within all men that he will be attracted to you for life when you trigger it.
How to make him feel like a man:
- Ask him to fix things for you
- Tell him how strong he is
- Let him stick up for you
If you let him be the man and let him be your hero, he will instinctively be incredibly attracted to you. He will do whatever you want. And since you want him to buy you more things, he will if you ask him.
11. Buy him things
Lead by example. If you want him to spend money on you, try spending some money on him. What happens when you do this is that you create the expectation of reciprocity. You scratch his back, and he scratches yours.
How to train him:
- Buy him a thoughtful gift.
- Make a big deal out of it and show excitement.
- Tell him that you love giving and receiving gifts.
Repeat the process until he begins reciprocating. Men need to be trained.
12. Show gratitude when he buys you something
Men have fragile egos. When he puts genuine consideration into buying you a sweet, meaningful present, it’s crucial that you show authentic and honest appreciation.
Along with massaging his ego, you’re also encouraging your man to be more generous. How do you train a dog to sit? When he sits, you give him a treat. In this analogy, your man is the dog:
- Man = Dog
- Trick = Buying you gifts
- Bone = Gratitude
If you’re thankful to him when he buys you something he’ll learn to do it more often.
13. Treat him with respect
The man in your life will know you love him when you treat him with respect. He’ll feel wanted and appreciated by you, which will spark a need in him to do something special in return. That special thing could be a genuine compliment, more attention to your needs in bed, or going out and buying you a gift.
Ways to show respect that mean a lot to guys:
- Don’t be overly critical when he’s messed up
- Treat him like you expect to be treated
- Communicate better
Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.James 1:19
Treat him like your King and a good man will treat you like his Queen.
14. Make him chase you
If a man has to chase you, he’ll pull out all the stops to prove to you that he’s worth it. He’ll compliment you more. He’ll text you non-stop. He’ll take you on expensive dates. And he’ll buy you things.
You, as the woman, are the prize to be won. You hold all the power.
How to get him to chase you:
- Make yourself scarce
- Drop hints that you’re dating other guys
- Don’t respond to texts right away
- When you’re on a date, show him you’re having a great time
- Be kind to him and those around you
- Don’t have sex with him right away
15. Make him addicted to you
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