So you’ve met a Gemini guy, and you’re trying to win him over. Maybe you’re wondering what specifically a Gemini looks for in a woman? If so, you’ve come to the right place! This article will teach you every step you need to know to seduce a Gemini man properly.
Before we get to the steps, I suggest taking a minute to get your free, personalized horoscope report. You can use this free knowledge to finetune your seduction approach.
How to Seduce a Gemini Man—the Ultimate Guide:
Phase 1: Attraction
1. Flirt a Lot
Gemini men are flirtatious people. In fact, they love flirting so much they’ll do it naturally, with anyone and everyone they come across. If you’re actively dating this guy, try not to get discouraged by his flirting. Gemini’s are social butterflies, drawn to pleasure and lighthearted fun. To him, flirting with others is just innocent fun. So, be a good flirt!
2. Ask For His Opinion on Things
The Gemini man needs to feel important. Ask him for his opinion on things, and get to know him on a deeper level. Get in the habit of asking him what he thinks of certain ideas. This will make him feel important–that you care what he thinks–and is a big factor in attracting him. While he might challenge you with his opinion, it’s ultimately a good thing.
3. Demonstrate Your Witty Nature
The male Gemini actively seeks out someone who can match his witty banter. In fact, it’ll catch him off guard if you’re able to keep up with his jokes and jabs. Show him your sense of humor. Don’t hold back. Bust his balls a bit. If you can keep up with him without taking yourself too seriously, you’ll be well on your way to getting this Gemini man’s attention.
4. Be Yourself
Most people will be what they think other people want to see. Don’t be scared to be yourself in the presence of a Gemini man. He’ll pick up on your self respect and will be attracted to this, and will want to be in a romantic relationship with you. This is a truth that transcends zodiac signs. So just be yourself, girl!
5. Be More Confident
Confidence is a powerful aphrodisiac. How you carry yourself reflects how you feel about yourself on the inside. Dress well. Try to be the best version of yourself. Confidence is intoxicating to him. And this is even more true when it comes to seducing a Gemini man. If he teases you, tease him back. And don’t let him overpower you in decision-making.
6. Be More Outgoing
Gemini men are talkative and outgoing people. So, of course, a Gemini will be attracted to someone who is also outgoing. If you’re on a date with a Gemini, don’t let the conversation stagnate. Overwhelm him with questions about his life, his hobbies, etc. If you want to Gemini man’s attention, be more outgoing.
7. Don’t Give Away Too Much
A little mystery is good. Mystery builds sexual tension. I’m not saying play hard to get—Gemini’s need to know where they stand with you. Don’t give everything away at first. Make him work to get to know you. Gemini men love adventure. So make yourself an adventure…a mystery for him to solve. And let him learn the amazing things about you, naturally.
8. Actively Listen to Him
Practice active listening. Gemini men love to talk, so be prepared to have your ear talked off. And rather than jumping in and sharing your own story, just let him continue blabbering on and on. He’ll relish the attention. Listen to him, and when he’s finally done, tell him how cool his story was, and then share your own.
9. Make Him Laugh
Show him your great sense of humor. Gemini men love to laugh. If you can make him laugh regularly, you’re well on your way to seducing him. One of the most universally attractive traits to both men and women is humor, no matter what zodiac sign. Be silly with him. Tease him a little bit. Make him authentically laugh, and you’re guaranteed to attract him.
10. Let Him Know You’re Attracted to Him
Don’t be coy, because Gemini men don’t like to play games. Let him know you’re attracted to him. Maybe you’ve given off many obvious signs that he’s just not picking up on. If you think he’s not getting your signals, be blatant with him. Say, “Hey Gemini, I want to bang you. Okay?” Simple as that.
11. Ask Him as Many Questions as You Can
It’s been said before, and I’ll say it again—Gemini men love to talk. So keep him talking by asking him questions. Philosophical questions are a great tool—big questions about the world. Challenging ideas. These types of things will keep him talking forever, and he’ll love being the center of attention.
12. Discuss World Events
Letting him know that you’re aware of what’s going on in the world is important. Gemini men are attracted to someone who has their finger on the pulse of current events in the world. Someone who’s paying attention to things. Someone who cares. What matters to a Gemini is that you’re actively engaged with the world.
13. Show off How Smart You Are
Nothing turns a Gemini man off more than an unintelligent, superficial, or shallow woman. He’s attracted to someone with raw talent and intelligence—someone who uses their mind to overcome things.
Show him that you can use logic and intuition to solve problems. Let him know you finished the Sunday NY Times crossword without any help. Let him know you finished that intense project at work, and your boss loved it.
Phase 2: Keep Him Interested
14. Give Him Breathing Room
Gemini men love emotional and mental freedom…the freedom to move through life without entanglements. So try not to be clingy. These guys need to have time to themselves. Don’t worry–he won’t be gone for a long time.
He’ll make sure you know he cares for you before he takes time for himself. Don’t be surprised if he texts you non-stop while he’s on his own because Gemini’s are romantics at heart.
15. Don’t Be Boring
Gemini men are always looking for a good time. You need to capture his interest. One way to do this is to be spontaneous and unpredictable. So how can you keep things fresh?
- Change plans last minute (The Capricorn in me is cringing right now…)
- Surprise him with a night out on the town.
- Plan dates in public gatherings, like festivals, farmers markets, etc.
Keeping things fresh and exciting is the best way to keep a Gemini man interested.
16. Go With The Flow
Gemini men need a drama free environment in order to thrive. They don’t like arguments or any conflict (I mean, who does?). What he’s looking for in a partner is someone easy-going. Someone who goes with the flow.
If you can take things in stride, this will be very attractive to a Gemini man. The more flexible you are (figuratively speaking, but not a bad idea for the bedroom either!), the more he’ll fall in love with you.
17. Learn About His Interests
Since Geminis like to talk so much, it shouldn’t be too hard for you to learn things about him. What are his hobbies? What are his interests outside of work? If he hasn’t brought any of these up, then broach the subject with him. Seek to learn about his hobbies and interests.
18. Have An Open Mind
Close-minded people are universally unattractive. I’m not even speaking from a political standpoint necessarily. People who are open to new ideas, new ways of thinking, and a possible better approach are incredibly attractive. This is even more true for Geminis since they love being challenged, debating ideas, and trying new things.
19. Talk With Him
Gemini men have the gift of gab. He’s going to talk your ear off, so be prepared to talk his ear off in turn. Yes, listening to what he’s saying is important, but it’s even more important, with Geminis, to be able to match him in conversation. If you can do this consistently you’ll keep him interested in you.
20. Show Him Your Soft Side
Geminis are loving creatures. They are drawn to positivity, fun, and kindness. Be sure to show him that softer side of yourself. Shower him with affection, verbally and physically. Do you do volunteer work on the weekends? Invite him along. The important thing is that he sees this side of you, early in the seduction.
21. Keep it Interesting
Avoid a dull moment with him by being more spontaneous. Change plans (do not cancel) last minute. Tell him that you’d love to learn a new language and sign the two of you up for classes. Plan a weekend canoeing/camping trip with him, and don’t tell him till the last minute. Being interesting and spontaneous is a KEY element to seducing a Gemini man.
22. Be a Good Companion
“Never have a companion that casts you in the shade.”Baltasar Gracian
Good companions meet each other’s unasked needs. Be the friend who held your hair back while you were vomiting. Be the friend that listened to you cry for hours on end when your ex broke your heart. Anticipate and answer his unasked needs. Listen to him. Counsel him. Be a good choice for him. He will, in return, be a good companion to you.
23. Make Plans For Fun Dates
You’ve always wanted to go metal detecting. No, it’s not weird. Metal detecting is awesome. If you’re boring and not into metal detecting, just go on Groupon and find an interesting and exciting adventure date.
The key here is to SURPRISE him with the date. Catch him off guard. Gemini men love adventure, surprises, and overall fun things. If you are constantly making plans for fun dates with him, you will become irresistible to him.
24. Prepare the Talking Points in Advance
Prepare yourself to debate big ideas with Gemini men. They love to see all sides of a story and won’t hesitate to debate a topic. If you bring up a topic and he takes an opposing stance, he’s not doing so to be stubborn. Rather, he’s trying to make sure he sees all angles. In doing so, he’s determining the fairest/rightest possible angle.
25. Be Loyal & Dependable
Showing him that you’re loyal, early in the relationship, will make him trust you. And being dependable is just as important. Don’t flake on him. Don’t cancel plans. If you agree to do something, do it. Don’t flirt with other guys. Don’t talk poorly about him in front of others. Demonstrate these qualities and he’ll be in it for the long haul.
Phase 3: Make Him Obsessed
26. Write Him a Love Letter
Gemini men love the written word. So write him a friggin love letter. Fill it with a ridiculous amount of words and sappy adjectives. And do it often. If you can master this, you’ll have a major leg up (no pun intended) on the competition. Love letters are a powerful key to a gemini man’s heart.
27. Show Him Your Common Interests
So you’ve been on a few dates by this point, and you don’t know the ins and outs of each other (yet). When he mentions that he loves to cook, tell him you do too. Invite him over for a home-cooked authentic French dinner. The point here is to demonstrate your shared interests. Don’t just tell him. Show him.
28. Make Him Question Himself
Gemini men love nothing more than debating complex ideas. So challenge him with a contrary opinion. Maybe you’re pro-gun control, and he’s pro-second amendment. If you can logically debate your stance and get him thinking, he’ll love you for it. Being challenged on an opinion is extremely intoxicating for Gemini men.
29. Be More Flexible
If you want to keep your Gemini man interested in you, continue being flexible. While going with the flow is important in the attraction stage, it’s also important to continue being mindful of in the keeping him interested stage.
30. Be Open
Be accessible to him with your thoughts and ideas. Be open to new ideas and experiences. Be an open book rather than a closed one.
31. Be Passionate About Life
“Zest is the secret of all beauty. There is no beauty that is attractive without zest.”Christian Dior
Being passionate about life and taking advantage of each day on this earth is incredibly attractive to Geminis. Don’t take things for granted. Show him that you absolutely love life. Doing so consistently will make a Gemini man fall for you…easily.
32. Show Him Your Creative Side
If your passion is to “create,” then share this with him. Gemini men love art and appreciate the creative discipline in general. Don’t hide this side of yourself from him.
33. Keep Him Entertained
Being able to maintain his interest is going to be crucial in the process of seducing him. Keeping him entertained is a great way to do this. Keep doing adventurous dates. Continue engaging him in deep conversation. Do this consistently, and he’ll be yours for life.
Phase 4: Complete the Seduction
34. Be Erotic
Gemini men live for passion. They are voracious consumers of all the rich experiences life has to offer, including sex. Be your complete sexual self with him. Be adventurous in bed. Experiment with new outfits and new positions. Send him dirty text messages during the day. Being erotic and sexual is a surefire way to secure a gemini man’s heart.
35. Be Truthful
“The high road is always respected. Honesty and integrity are always rewarded.”Scott Hamilton
It’s tough for us humans to be honest. The more honest you can be with a Gemini man, the better off you’ll be in his eyes. When he asks you for your opinion, be honest. When he’s hurt you, be honest. When you let your ethics shine through, he’ll not only be more attracted to you, but he’ll also respect you immensely. Wife material.
36. Surprise Him
Keep him addicted to you by being a constant source of mystery and surprise. Switch plans with him at the last minute—plan elaborate adventures for the two of you. Instead of going to your favorite restaurant for dinner, suggest that new place that opened up just down the street.
37. Demonstrate Your Independence
Make a gemini man miss you. People want what they can’t have. Demonstrating that you have your own life independent of him will keep him wanting more. Spend a few days per week doing your own thing—set boundaries. Your dual nature will want nothing more than to be with him but remember that you spending time alone will leave him craving you.
38. Be Compassionate
Kindness, forgiveness, and compassion are desirable qualities. Why? Because they’re scarce. If you can show him this compassionate side of yourself, he’ll never let you go. Remember, Gemini men thrive in drama-free environments. So if you can move on quickly after a lover’s squabble, it’ll mean the world to him.
Follow these steps to completely seduce a Gemini male:
- Try to match his wit and intelligence.
- Actively seek out adventure.
- Be spontaneous and open to sudden change.
- Debate big ideas with him and give him constant mental stimulation
- Use your words to woo him. Compliment and reassure him.
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