You know that guy at work? The one who is always hanging around your desk, flirting with you, and gazing deeply into your eyes? Yes, that one.
You might be picking up on subtle signs that he likes you. How can you be sure of the signs a male coworker likes you?
1. He flirts with you, A LOT
If your male work friend is flirting with you it’s a clear sign that he likes you. If he’s flirting with you because he wants you. If you’re flirting back…well…it’s time to make a choice!
Here are signs that a guy is flirting with you:
- He asks you about your relationship status
- He teases you
- He brings up your inside jokes
- His body language changes
- He keeps eye contact with you
2. He always sits close to you in meetings
Men want to be close to things they like. Pay attention to him next time he comes to a meeting.
Think back to middle school. Remember your crush? Remember how you’d strategically choose your seat in the cafeteria so that you could stare at him?
Your guy friend at work is doing the same thing.
And it’s an unmistakable sign that your male coworker likes you.
So, next time you guys are in a meeting together, see if he sits next to you or directly across from you. If he does, it’s because he wants to undress you with his eyes constantly.
3. He’s interested in your personal life
Making small talk at work is normal (and boring).
But if he’s continuing the conversation by asking more questions about what you did over the weekend, it’s a good sign! Some “more than a friend” type questions:
- How’s your sister enjoying her semester in Spain? (he remembers details)
- Do you think Jim and Pam are still married? (he likes The Office)
- How much can you bench? (he’s teasing you)
He’s asking these questions because he doesn’t want to leave your presence. That simple. And it’s a dead giveaway that he’s having a hard time controlling himself.
4. He interacts with your social media
If he’s suddenly liking all your posts, and especially any really OLD posts, it means he can’t get enough of you.
While it’s perfectly normal for family and friends to follow you on social media and like your posts, it’s slightly odd for those people to like every photo in your feed.
If he leaves funny comments on your posts, he’s trying to make you laugh (humor is the key to a woman’s heart).
And it’s a big sign that your colleague likes you.
5. His body language changes when he talks to you
His body speaks volumes.
And you don’t have to be an expert to see the signs. It’s one of the subtle ways he shows his attraction to you.
- He’s standing tall with his shoulders back
- He touches his lips or face when he talks to you
- He’s mirroring your body language
- He’s staring into your eyes
If he’s doing at least 3 of these things every time he talks with you, then it’s a sure sign he wants the best kind of physical contact with you.
6. There’s intense sexual tension with him
Every word exchanged between the two of you is dripping with sexual tension. You’re more than just good friends.
The vibes between you are so thick you could cut them with a knife. When he talks to you, you see his eyes travel down to your chest. You catch him stealing glances at your butt when you bend down to pick up your phone.
If things are this intense with him, then it’s not only a sign he likes you, but it’s also a sign that you like him.
7. He brings you coffee
You like a ridiculous amount of French Vanilla creamer in your coffee, and he knows it.
You’re in the midst of the 2 o’clock slump at work, and suddenly your work colleague appears out of nowhere. He’s brought you your coffee precisely how you like it.
He sets the drink down, winks at you, and turns to leave. As he walks away, you take an extra-long look glance at his firm, muscular ass.
Men rarely do favors for women they’re not attracted to. If he brings you a coffee, it’s one of the telltale signs he wants more.
Now sip your coffee and daydream about what you’d do to him when you get your hands on him. That excel spreadsheet can wait a few more moments.
8. He gets worried if you talk about a career change
You’ve been working on your Master’s degree part-time. Get it, girl.
And when you mention to him that you’ve gotten a job offer with a higher salary in a better position, he gets noticeably sad.
While he might congratulate you for your success and outwardly say he’s really proud of you and happy for you, deep inside, he’s terrified of never seeing you again.
It’s because he’s got strong feelings for you, silly.
9. He gets jealous when you talk about other guys
He wants to be the center of your attention. He doesn’t care about another female coworker he sits next to all day.
Because basking in your glow is the only sunshine he needs. You’re the first thing he thinks about every day.
If you’re bringing up other guys in conversation and notice his body language changes, or he tries to change the subject, these are both signs that he’s jealous of those other guys.
While too much jealousy is terrible, a little bit of jealousy is a healthy indicator of attraction.
10. He takes your side on work issues
You voice your opinion in a work meeting. Your boss interrupts you to tell you why you’re wrong. Your work husband speaks up and says:
“I actually agree with her on this.”
He’s validating your feelings and standing up for you because he wants you to know that he supports you.
When he shows publicly (in meetings) that he’s got your back, rest assured he sees you as more than just a coworker.
11. He can’t take his eyes off you
The eyes are the keys to the soul. And in this case, your eyes are the key to a lot more. (you know what I mean).
Have you noticed him staring at you? Have you caught him stealing glances at your body?
You’re telling him what you and your girlfriends did over the weekend, and he doesn’t break eye contact with you—the whole time.
Ladies, this is a major clue that he’s attracted to you!
12. He’s begun to take better care of his appearance
You can’t put your finger on it…but what you DO know is he is looking GOOD.
- Better hygiene
- Fantastic haircut
- Smells amazing
- Great style
Regardless of the dress code, if you’ve noticed your male colleague taking better care of his appearance, there’s a reason. And that reason could be you.
How you look on the outside is a direct reflection of how you feel on the inside. If he’s suddenly looking better, it’s because he’s feeling better–around you.
13. His friends tease him around you
His work buddies are his wingmen. His friends will bring attention to him by teasing him in front of you. They might reference inside jokes.
This is how guys lift each other up in front of the opposite sex. They’re showing you that he’s an accepted member of the tribe.
If he can take the heat (and they know he can, or they wouldn’t be doing it in front of you), it makes him look like an alpha male. Caveman shit, right there.
14. He tries to solve problems for you at work
The monitor at your cubicle has one of those annoying black lines going through it. You complain about it to him and he tells you he’ll take care of it.
He comes over on his lunch break and delivers you a brand new monitor. You’re fully capable of doing all of this yourself.
But the fact that he’s stepping in to try to solve these problems for you, there’s a good chance he’s attracted to you.
Men are hard-wired to be problem solvers and providers. If he’s solving problems for you it’s because he sees you as a potential mate. Yes, sex.
15. He compliments you in front of coworkers
“Damn Gina, you did such a good job on that one thing you did.”
If he goes out of his way to compliment you when your coworkers are within earshot, then he likes you—a lot.
Guys don’t compliment unless they mean it. So if a male colleague compliments you in front of other coworkers, he definitely has feelings for you.
16. He changes things so he can be closer to you
You come in for your shift, and guess who’s there? That’s right, that hot guy from work. Or maybe you work in an office environment. Suddenly, there’s an opportunity to switch cubicles.
He jumps at the chance to move his desk closer to yours.
This can be borderline creepy, depending on how he goes about it. Just keep an eye out. If he’s making major moves to be closer to you, then it’s a not-so-subtle hint that he has feelings for you.
17. He’s always eager to help you with things
You’re overwhelmed with the amount of work you have to do.
You’ve been in meetings all day, and you haven’t had time to get any of your actual work done. That’s when this guy steps in. He sees you’re stressed and offers to take some of your workload.
If he’s helping you with things, it’s because he wants to be your hero and rescue you from your stress. Men love to be heroes. It’s a deep, powerful instinct. You can learn more about the Hero Instinct here.
He’s your Superman and you’re his Lois Lane.
18. He lowers the tone of his voice
Nervous, beta males talk rapidly and with a higher-pitch voice. If he’s lowering his voice when he talks to you, he’s exhibiting alpha male behavior.
A deep voice conveys power and sexual prowess.
Strong, attractive men make slow, deliberate movements and speak in calm, deep tones. So if he’s beginning to sound like Luther Vandross, he’s showing off.
Guess where else he’s hoping you’ll hear his deep voice? Yes. Your bedroom.
19. Your work friends tell you that he likes you
Your friends know all about your love life. If you’re clueless about the signs that your work friend likes you, trust me when I say that your colleagues aren’t.
Say he comes by and brings you a coffee, tells you a joke, and then heads back to his desk. Your cubicle neighbor leans back in her chair and winks at you. She knows.
If you’re not sure how he feels, just ask your close work friend and she’ll tell you.
20. He defends you in front of colleagues
This is more than just taking your side or offering friendly support. If one of your coworkers criticizes you in front of other team members, and he steps up to defend you, he LIKES YOU.
I mentioned earlier how men want to be your Hero. This is part of that. Defending you in front of others. He’s defending you because you’re someone he values and wants to protect.
So next time that guy from work sticks up for you, realize that he’s totally down for a workplace romance.
21. He asks you out on a date
I don’t even need to write anything here.
This is an obvious sign that the guy from work likes you.
If your male friend at work asks you out for drinks, it’s pretty clear that he wants to get you out of the workplace and get himself out of the friend zone as quickly as possible!
Conclusion: Now what?
So, now what? Time to stop reading blogs and do something about it. James Bauer, an international relationship expert, offers simple and powerful methods for you to take the next step with your coworker.
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