You deserve to be loved and cherished by your man. If you’re reading this then you’re probably doubting if he truly cares about you.
Here are 19 heartbreaking signs he doesn’t care about you anymore:
You might be asking yourself, “does he love me?” or “Am I imagining things or possibly being too sensitive?” Let this list be your guide. If any of these signs resonate with you, then it might be time to move on.
1. He’s using you for physical satisfaction
Regular sex with your partner is a sign of a healthy relationship.
But if that’s all you are to him—something to sleep with, then it’s time to move on.
And you’ll see the warning signs:
- He doesn’t text you anymore.
- He doesn’t spend quality time with you.
- He comes over, sleeps with you, and then leaves.
If he’s using you as his own personal sex object, and you expect a deeper, more meaningful relationship, it’s a clear sign to move on.
2. He doesn’t want to be intimate anymore
You can’t remember the last time he tried to initiate sex with you.
And in the rare moments when you have slept together, it’s because you initiated it. If a man doesn’t want to sleep with you, it’s a good sign he doesn’t care about you anymore.
That said, there could be other reasons he’s not interested. He could be stressed from work. He could be struggling with performance anxiety, or he could be having an affair.
Regardless, you deserve to get laid. All the time. By someone who cares about you.
3. You’ve never met his friends or family
You’ve been in a long-term relationship with this guy, but you don’t even know his best friend’s name.
In fact, he’s never brought up a close friend or his family in conversation. And when you’ve mentioned how you’d like to meet his family, he gets annoyed and changes the subject.
The truth is, he’s not introducing you to his friends or family because you don’t mean that much to him.
4. He takes you for granted
You feel like a doormat.
You cancel plans with your girlfriends to go over to his apartment (because he wants to get laid, no doubt), and he doesn’t acknowledge your sacrifice. And that hurts.
He never offers to do anything for you. Even small gestures, like grabbing you a LaCroix on the way back from the kitchen, rarely happen.
If he loves you, he’ll do whatever he can to make you feel welcome, needed, and loved. If he’s not making you feel this way, it means he doesn’t want you in his life.
It’s a bad sign.
5. Getting him to spend time with you is like pulling teeth
You’re not a dentist. (You may very well be a dentist but the analogy works here)
You shouldn’t be the only one putting in the effort. While he may not be the most talkative or text-ative person on the planet, him ignoring your text messages and being unwilling to put in the effort to see you isn’t okay.
If you’re the one chasing him, texting him, begging him to spend time with you, it’s one of the obvious signs that he really doesn’t care about you.
If he cared he would put in the effort to spend time with you.
6. He rarely goes out of his way to brighten your day
“Do you have a to-do list? If so, put me on it.”– Text from the Boyfriend
How happy would you be if you got this text from him out of the blue? You’d be counting the hours until you got to see him so you could kiss him, hug him, (or rip his clothes off).
But he’s not sending you sweet texts. No little things.
When men care about you, they let you know. So If he’s not doing small, effortless things to brighten your day, it’s one of the best ways to know if he’s lost interest in you.
7. He shows zero interest in your life
A man who cares about will want to know what’s going on in your life.
He’ll want to have deep conversations with you.
He’ll care that:
- You just got a promotion at work
- Your best friend just got engaged
- Your favorite islander just got kicked off Love Island
A man who loves you will congratulate you on your successes and comfort you when things go bad. This is a normal, healthy thing to expect from your mate.
If he’s showing zero interest in things that are important to you, good or bad, it’s one of the signs he doesn’t care about your relationship.
Yes, we all have lives of our own, but you are part of his life and vice versa.
8. He’s not jealous of you hanging around other men
A little jealousy is healthy.
ZERO jealousy is bad.
Jake, the cute intern at work (who you’ve noticed sneaking hungry glances at you), had a very public breakup with his office girlfriend. You tell your boyfriend about it. He doesn’t bat an eye.
What you’re doing when you bring up another guy in conversation is testing your man.
You’re letting him know that you’re still attractive to other men.
So If he doesn’t react to your “test,” it’s either a sign that he’s either extremely confident in your relationship OR, he could care less if Jake from work steals you away.
He doesn’t want to make things work.
9. He doesn’t treat you like a special person
At one point you were the most important person in his life.
But not anymore.
He no longer goes above and beyond to make sure that you know how special you are to him. He doesn’t get you gifts, ask how your day was, or pay special attention to your needs in the bedroom.
He doesn’t take you out for special days.
If he doesn’t make it abundantly clear through his actions that you’re the most important person to him, then it’s a great sign he doesn’t care enough.
10. He’s not protective of you
Men are natural protectors.
If someone does or says something to hurt you, your man should immediately come to your defense. The last thing he should want you to feel is vulnerable.
Defending you is a hardwired instinct in men, just like it is in mothers, to do anything to protect their babies. You’re his baby (in a cute way…not a patronizing way).
So if he never comes to your defense, he’s either a coward or he’s not interested in you enough to protect you.
It’s time to move on. There are plenty of good guys who won’t hesitate to fight for you in the first place.
11. He never talks about Future Plans
You: “How many kids do you want?”
Him: “I don’t know.”
Talking about plans and goals for the future is a normal, healthy part of a relationship.
Normal future-tripping topics in a relationship:
- Ideal wedding location
- If you want kids and how many
- Honeymoon destination
- How big of a house do you want
If he dodges these super common relationship topics, then he’s not planning on sticking around long enough for those things to matter.
12. He never pays for anything
Men pay for things to prove their value to you.
So he’ll buy you things and pay for stuff if he cares what you think of him.
That said, him not paying for things shouldn’t be the sole reason to leave him. Younger guys are still working on getting established in life. They’re not making the salaries of a 30 or 40-year-old.
They may simply lack the ability to shower you with gifts or pay for every date.
You’ll need to follow your gut instinct on this one. You know your man, and you know his heart.
Who knows? If he’s suddenly stopped paying for things, maybe he’s saving up for something amazing….a ring, perhaps?
13. He flirts with other women in front of you
Flirting is how we let the opposite sex know that we’re sexually available.
Him flirting with the server when you guys are out to dinner is not okay. And it’s definitely not something a guy would do if he cared about you.
While a little bit of flirting here and there is a sign of self-confidence, doing it in front of you is a sign that he has little to zero respect for you.
Some innocent flirting is fun. And once in a while, it’s okay to do it in front of your mate. But if he flirts with other women often and makes it obvious that he’s attracted to someone else, he obviously doesn’t care about you.
And he might be more interested in an open relationship.
14. He makes every decision
When men take charge it’s sexy.
But it’s also sexy, normal, and healthy for him to see you as an equal partner in every aspect of your relationship.
If he leaves zero room for your input or feedback, that’s a sign that he doesn’t care about your feelings, and he doesn’t trust you to make the right decision.
Being in complete control makes him feel like a bigger man. That’s an extremely toxic trait you need to get away from ASAP.
15. He doesn’t listen to anything you say
You: “…and so that’s why I think I’m going to look for a new job.”
So annoying. You know he didn’t listen to a word of anything you just said.
While most men (and arguably just most people in general) are bad at listening, if he’s too preoccupied to respond to your questions and too busy to comment on the bomb you just dropped in conversation, it can mean only one thing:
He cares about himself (or someone else) more. If it’s been going on for a long time, it’s a huge red flag.
16. You don’t feel like a priority
Your happiness should be the most important thing to him.
Do you resonate with any of these scenarios?
- He’s canceled your date night 3 times in a row now.
- He doesn’t take care of you when you’re sick.
- He’s always working and never has time for you.
If him doing other things instead of making you his priority has become commonplace, then it’s one of the major signs that you’re not important to him anymore. He doesn’t care about your serious relationship.
Other things (or other women) are.
17. He’s overly critical
When a man is overly critical, it’s because he lacks self-confidence. And he takes it out on you. Sometimes he might do it in front of others!
He blames you for everything. When you two fight, he always finds a way to make it your fault.
If a man cares about you, he’ll take responsibility when he’s done something wrong. And he definitely won’t be going out of his way to make you wrong for everything.
If you feel like nothing you ever do is good enough, this is one of the major signs that he doesn’t care about you anymore.
18. He doesn’t care if you’re satisfied
You guys just had sex. And he’s fulfilled. But not you.You’re not even close.
Yes, several things impact a man’s ability to perform in the bedroom, such as work stress, obesity, and fatigue.
But if he regularly climaxes before you (without acknowledging the fact or apologizing), this is an apparent sign that he doesn’t care about you or your sexual satisfaction.
You deserve to be satisfied in bed. And if he refuses to let you, it’s time to say goodbye.
This is one of the biggest signs that you might be in a toxic relationship.
19. You have a gut feeling
“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.”Dr. Joyce Brothers
Let’s be honest. You wouldn’t be reading this if you felt he loved and respected you.
You’re a strong woman. You deserve to be wanted. You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and admiration.
It’s never easy to walk away from something. If you’re wondering what to do when your boyfriend doesn’t care anymore, and you recognize that it’s time to move on, then I suggest watching this video by relationship expert James Bauer.
Click the button below to watch the free, short presentation. It doesn’t take much time and it’s insanely powerful stuff.
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