We’ve all been there, you meet a guy and he’s become your best friend. He’s always there for you and never does anything inappropriate.
But then one day, you see him doing something that makes your heart skip a beat and suddenly your mind begins to wonder…
What if he has romantic feelings for me? There’s a good chance he does.
19 undeniable signs your male friend has feelings for you:
1. You’ve had some sexually charged moments
It’s completely natural for us humans to have a physical connection with our friends and family. But we don’t always find our friends necessarily attractive.
And even if we do, it doesn’t always mean we want to take it any further.
But if innocent banter is brimming with sexual tension then this is a sign that you BOTH want more.
Have any of these happened to you?
- Have you almost kissed while out for drinks with friends?
- Have you caught him looking at your lips, chest, or butt?
- Have your hands brushed up against each other?
Sexually charged moments are one of the clear signs that you’re more than just close friends.
2. He asks About Your Love Life
Does he ask if you’re seeing anyone? Maybe he asks how that relationship is going? He’s asking these questions because he wants to know if he’s got a chance with you.
And since he’s already your friend, he’s got a leg up on the competition.
The thing is, he won’t want to risk ruining your friendship by letting his strong feelings be known, so he’s asking these questions to be 100% sure.
3. He texts you often and at random times
“Hey, what should I binge watch next on Netflix?” He sends you this text at 10:30 pm on a Friday night out of nowhere.
The next morning he texts you a picture of what he’s having for breakfast, asking if you like his “plating” technique. This behavior isn’t normal for a guy when he’s texting a woman.
This is a definite sign that he likes you!
4. He’s started talking to you more
Women say 20,000 words per day versus only 7,000 for guys. If you’ve known him for a little bit now, and he’s suddenly chatting up a storm, this is a great sign that he has feelings for you.
And maybe he’s started opening up to you about his life, things he likes doing, and even deep, personal topics that you know aren’t part of everyday conversation.
Falling in love with someone is the strongest drug. So, of course, he wants to talk to you more and spend more time with you.
5. He keeps the conversation going
If he likes you he’s going to find ways to keep the conversation going:
“Can you explain why Lorelai was so upset with Jake, and why Sookie’s feelings were hurt?”.
Guys are horrible at making small talk. In fact, it can make them uncomfortable.
So if he’s going out of his way to ask probing questions then this is definitely a big sign that he’s into you.
6. He’s protective of you
Men are protective by nature. And when they see someone they value being threatened or harassed, they’re going to want to protect you.
Examples of him being protective:
1. You mention how this guy keeps DM’ing you on Instagram and won’t leave you alone. He asks for the guy’s name so he can tell him to back off.
2. You mention how your boss is an overbearing asshole and your guy friend says (jokingly) he’ll fight him for you.
So when your guy friend offers to beat up the old man who didn’t respond to you saying, “good morning!” then this is a sign he has more than just friendship feelings for you.
7. He wants to hang out more often
We’re all busy.
When we’re not at work then we’re at the gym (#lifegoals), we’re spending time with friends & family, or we’re relaxing at home with a bottle of rose’ after a long day at work.
We really don’t have that much time in our daily lives to see our friends–especially multiple times per week.
If your male friend is suddenly finding a lot of time to see you more often, then yes, he’s caught the feels for you.
Love is a powerful drug, and a man will go out of his way to make the time to see people he’s attracted to.
If he’s interested in more than a friendship he’s not going to let his pesky schedule get in the way of spending more time with you.
He will probably invite himself along, even for little things, just to be in your presence.
8. He invites you to do stuff with his friend group
If your male friend likes you he’ll want to show you off to his friends.
Men have two versions of themselves; ‘independent him’ and ‘relationship’ him. And they love to keep the two separate.
So if he’s begun inviting you to hang out with his friend group, this is a definite sign he’s falling for you. His friends will immediately know that he’s showing you off.
And he’s perfectly okay bringing in an “outsider” into his friend group. He’s only going to do this if he’s serious about getting out of the friend zone with you.
9. He blushes when he talks to you
When we humans blush, we’re actually mimicking an orgasm. I know, right? That’s why blood rushes to our faces.
These body language signs are a dead giveaway of attraction. It’s something humans pick up on immediately.
Much faster than spoken communication.
So next time you compliment him and he starts blushing or stumbling over his words, this is a definite sign that your male friend has feelings for you.
This doesn’t even require any physical contact. Show him your “sex eyes” and see what happens.
10. He’s interacting with your social media posts
Friends will regularly like & comment on your posts.
Friends who’ve caught the feels will suddenly like EVERYTHING on your social media when they’ve rarely if ever interacted before.
While most friends of yours will regularly engage with your social media posts, it’s how often they do it that sets normal behavior apart from “super interested” behavior.
He’ll begin leaving clever comments. He’ll like OLD posts. This is a dead giveaway. If he’s spending time looking through your feed from years past you’ll know he’s focused on one thing only. You.
11. He’s posting more on social media
If he’s gone from posting stupid memes or pictures of him holding a fish he caught to pictures of him all dressed up, out with his friends, then he’s trying to show off to you.
If you’ve known him for a while then you probably follow him on social media. And you’ll notice a change in his posting pattern, believe it or not.
He knows you’ll see that image in his insta feed. And that’s all he cares about. He doesn’t care about Aunt Myrtle telling him he’s out too late on a weeknight. He wants to be seen by you.
12: He insists on paying for things
Buying things for you is a male mating ritual. If you’re hanging out with him somewhere and he insists on paying, he likes you.
A major way men show their romantic interest is by spending their money on you. It’s a deep drive that men have.
It comes down to them wanting to show you that they’re capable of taking care of you.
13. He constantly jokes with you
There’s a reason why 10/10 women find humor attractive. It’s been scientifically proven to be a way to a woman’s heart. And humor is one of the most attractive qualities a man can exhibit.
Successfully making a woman laugh is another mating ritual. Being able to make you laugh is up there with him being able to provide for you.
Speaking of mating rituals…if his jokes start getting sexual in nature then you know he’s got one thing on his mind.
Having sex with him.
His penis in your vagina.
14. He brings up in conversation how much time you’re spending together
When he says things like, “I love spending time with you. You’re hilarious,” this is a definite sign of attraction.
A major indicator that your male friend has feelings for you is when he brings up how much time you’re spending together.
He wants you to know that he genuinely likes spending time with you. He loves the way you make him feel by just being around him.
And this feeling is even stronger with people that we’re attracted to.
So if he’s commenting on how much time you are spending together then he absolutely likes you.
And he wants to take things to the next level.
15. He showers you with compliments
While it’s normal in friendships to compliment each other now and then, it’s uncommon to do it all the time.
If he takes the opportunity to compliment you on things and does it often, congrats, your male friend likes you more than just a friend.
Especially if he begins complimenting you on your outfit, telling you that “you look amazing in that dress,” then he really, truly likes you.
It’s a good sign, ladies.
16. He’s more touchy-feely
Is he hugging you more? Is he making eye contact with you…a lot?
When talking to you does he reach out and touch your hair? Does he try to tickle you?
Guys don’t touch girls like this unless they’re interested. And if he’s being playful with you, that’s 100% flirting.
Playful touching is one of the obvious signs of attraction. Doesn’t matter what gender you are. Science, folks.
17. He doesn’t want to leave
Love is a drug, remember? If he’s loving spending time with you the last thing he’s going to want to do is to leave!
He’s going to want to stick around and flirt with you, as long as he can.
Real-life examples of him not wanting to leave:
- You meet for coffee and afterwards he asks if you want to go people-watch at the mall
- You guys have tickets for a movie and he suggest pre-movie dinner date
- He comes over “fix your leaky faucet” and you guys order pizza and binge-watching 90 Day Fiancé together.
The point is, he doesn’t want to go home. He’s having too much fun with you.
Remember, people have jam-packed lives. So if your guy friend is going the extra mile to spend time with you is a sign of his growing affection.
18. All your friends think he likes you
Your girlfriends know when something’s up. And they’ll often pick up on any sexual tension or signs of attraction before you do.
And they’ll be sure to let you know!
They’re further removed from the situation so they’ll be able to see things objectively.
Next time you’re out with your group of girls ask them if they think he likes you more than a friend.
If you guys have mutual friends, ask them too. They’ll be honest with you. But make sure to swear them to secrecy!
19. You just know he does
Always follow your instinct. If you feel, deep down, in your gut, that something has changed, then you’re correct.
Good news: your feminine energy is very intuitive and is keyed into the world around you. You’re able to pick up on the subtle signs that other people miss.
So if you have any inkling that he likes you, you need to trust that intuition.
Great, you like him too!
You’ve determined that your male friend has feelings for you, and you’ve decided that you want a romantic relationship with him.
So, now what? Time to stop reading blogs and do something about it. James Bauer, an international relationship expert, offers the best way for you to take the next step with your male friend.
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