6 Things Men Need Most in a Relationship

Due to how they were raised or social pressures, men tend to bottle up their emotions and silently suffer when their needs, emotional or physical, aren’t being met by their partner.

Hopefully, by reading this article, you’ll gain some deeper and more valuable insight into what men need to be happy in a relationship.

Here are 6 Things Men Need Most in a Relationship:

1. Approval and honest praise

Men may look tough on the outside but they have extremely fragile egos.

Believe it or not, we need constant reassurance about who we are as people, our careers, how we stack up as a partner, how good we are at sex, and how attractive we are.

Some men tell their shrinks every month that their partners rarely, if never, compliment them or let them know what they admire about them.

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Men love hugs.

And while it is true that most men need a lot less “verbal” praise from their partners, the smallest compliment does wonders for a man’s ego–and therefore, his mood.

The lesson here is, let your praise flow like the Nile. You don’t have to lie. Tell him exactly what you find attractive about him. Is it the way he laughs at your jokes? The way he stands while he pumps gas? The fact that he can carry 30 grocery bags in at once? Your praise won’t make him a cocky asshole. All it will do is help him feel absolutely loved.

The more you praise the positive things about him, the more you will see them. This is a key to shedding resentments.

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2. Respect

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Respect is one of the most powerful things men need most in a relationship. For men, respect is translated as love. Love = respect. Respect = love.

He’ll have a hard time truly loving you if you disapprove of any part of his life–from his career (success or failures) to his relationships with his friends. These are all parts of his core being.

To break this down into simpler terms, think of it this way. “How can she really want what is best for me if she doesn’t respect who I am as a person? Who I am in my core?”

A man will distance himself from those who show disapproval or lack of respect for his path or mission in life—especially his partner.

3. A true physical connection

Generally speaking, men build a deeper connection with their partners through sex, while women form stronger bonds through communication.

Men don’t need to get laid every day. But in the hierarchy of things men need, sex does top the list.

That said, they need to see that spark of sexual attraction daily—the need to be needed. You need to be sexually “accessible,” if that makes sense.

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Let him know you’re sexually accessible.

Men will test the waters with you by trying to initiate. This is him asking without asking if you’re still available sexually to him. If he reaches out for you when you’re in bed, even being willing to let him spoon you, to kiss him deeply, to tell him you love him–these are all enough to make him feel loved and wanted.

Not being aware that women need more communication and men need more sex or at least sexual accessibility will often be the death knell of any healthy relationship.

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The funny thing is…she won’t feel like being physically open unless she feels emotionally open to him, and he finds it “hard” (pun intended) to communicate with her because they haven’t had sex for a few days.

By talking with your partner and finding out what makes them feel the most loved, you can completely avoid these emotional states couples find themselves in.

4. Emotional intimacy

From a very young age, men are taught that the worst thing they can do is appear weak emotionally. Complaining, showing vulnerability or fear, or self-doubt in any way are socially perceived “weaknesses.”

As your man’s partner, you are his safest space. With you, he’ll let his armor down and let you heal his emotional wounds.

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Men open up over time emotionally. And women open up slowly sexually.

A man needs to feel reassured that if he shows you deep vulnerability, such as crying, you won’t judge him or push him away. He needs you to nurture him. If you don’t do any of these, he won’t trust you enough to show you his emotions. And he’ll distance himself from you.

What happens here is that both sides of the relationship lose. He holds her at arm’s length emotionally while he goes on suffering silently while believing that he is truly, deeply flawed.

5. Alone Time

Relationship expert James Bauer has written extensively and brilliantly on the things men need to remain in a relationship. Men being drawn more towards independence and self-sustenance, and women towards emotion, communication, and intimacy.

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Being too clingy or suffocating a man (by not giving him free time or being too jealous) are surefire ways to end a relationship. Men need room to breathe. They need time for their friends, hobbies, and the time to work on projects and hobbies to feel fulfilled. Men get a great sense of happiness from achieving things.

Historically, when women needed to solve a problem, they would consult with close female members of their tribe. Conversely, men would solve problems by spending time away from the tribe, alone with their thoughts.

So give him space. He’s taking time to himself, and it has zero bearings on his affection for you. It will restore him, and in turn, your relationship will flourish.

6. The Hero Instinct

The Hero Instinct is the most important of the “6 things all men need most in a relationship.” and is also the most important secret to becoming a man’s deepest desire and priority in life.

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Men want to “rescue” you

In fact, it doesn’t matter how “in love” or “infatuated” a man is; if the woman he’s with doesn’t bring out his Hero Instinct, he’ll always feel like something important is missing and eventually seek out a woman who knows this secret.

But, when you learn how to trigger a man’s Hero Instinct, his heart will be yours, and he’ll do literally anything to make you happy (aside from murder or laundry).

The Hero Instinct is a BIOLOGICAL DRIVE…just like sex, thirst, and hunger. And once this drive is triggered, it becomes more powerful than all 3 combined. This is what makes it virtually impossible for him to ignore.


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